From
The Trusted Advisor - - what do good listeners do that make them good listeners? They:
- Probe for clarification
- Listen for unvoiced emotions
- Listen for the story
- Summarize well
- Empathize
- Listen for what's different, not for what's familiar
- Take it all seriously (they don't say, "You shouldn't worry about that")
- Spot hidden assumptions
- Let the client "get it out of his or her system"
- Ask "How do you feel about that?"
- Keep the client talking "What else have you considered?"
- Keep asking for more detail that helps them understand
- Get rid of distractions while listening
- Focus on hearing you version first
- Let you tell your story your way
- Stand in your shoes, at least while they're listening
- Ask you what you've thought of before telling you what they've thought of
- Look at (not stare at) the client as he or she speaks
- Ask you how you think they might be of help
- Look for congruity (or incongruity) between what the client says and how he or she gestures and postures
- Make it seems as if the client is the only thing that matters and that they have all the time in the world
- Encourage by nodding head or giving a slight smile
- Are aware of and control their body movement (no moving around, shaking legs, fiddling with a paper clip)
Things that will not get you in the Listening Hall of Fame:
- Interrupt
- Respond too soon
- Match the client's points ("Oh, yes, I had something like that happen to me. It all started . . .")
- Editorialize in midstream ("Well, that option's a nonstarter")
- Jump to conclusions (much less judgments)
- Ask closed-end questions for no reason
- Give you their ideas before hearing yours
- Judge you
- Try to solve the problem too quickly
- Take calls or interruptions in the course of a client meeting (it seems so obvious but watch how often it happened)
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